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Even though moving is often an exciting time, the transition can be a considerable challenge. From choosing the right  to buying a new home and finding the right neighborhood, moving is stressful enough as it is. Adding kids into the mix can present even more challenges.

The thought of saying goodbye to friends, leaving your home for a new one, and being the ‘new kid’ can be overwhelming for children. And the stress your child might experience can make the moving process as a parent even more difficult.

But with the right approach, moving doesn’t have to be a negative experience for your kids. Here are some tips that will help make moving with kids a little smoother.

How relocation affects your kids

Change as a result of moving can be hard on everyone, but studies show it’s particularly difficult for young teens.

One study found that moving schools when you’re 12-14 years old significantly increase the chance of substance abuse and violent behavior — even controlling for income and psychiatric history.

This is mostly because kids in this age group are already dealing with significant changes. So, the added stress of upheaval in their social lives can be a lot to handle. If your kids are around this age, pay close attention to how they’re coping with the move.

Research shows that kids under 8 showed a minimal increase in risk for negative behaviors. But they still need help with the significant changes that a move brings — it will just look a little different.

Here are tips on how to help your kids transition during the moving process, which will — in turn — move easier on yourself, too.

How to prepare your kids for the move

Learning that they’re going to move is often hard news for kids because they don’t have control over the change. So, one of the keys to helping your kids through the transition is helping them feel like they have a sense of control.

According to the framework for behavioral change by , that can — and should — start before the move occurs.

The time before a change happens falls into what’s known as the “pre-contemplation stage.” This is the time when a person is resistant to change, but is aware that it needs to happen. And according to Prochaska, giving the child a reason to embrace the change or instilling the proper motivation to make the transition is key.

With your kids during a move, that often means helping them see the change in a positive light. Here are 10 tips for helping them do so:

Keep in mind that every kid is different, so finding what helps your child with the transition is crucial. That’s why regularly talking about the move is so important — it enables you to stay close to what they’re struggling with, so you can help.

Moving by the ages

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Babies and toddlers

You’ll definitely have your hands full if you’re moving your home while having a baby or a toddler in tow. 

This can be a scary time for them too because everything they’ve ever known is being changed. Make time for hugs and reassurance, making the reason you’re moving very simple, and keep their favorite things nearby: toys, books, food, and clothes. Try to keep your routines intact as much as possible for mornings, bedtimes, meals, etc.

Preschoolers

This is the age of the question … so many questions! Embrace that and let your preschooler know why you’re moving, where to, and that their room will be the first you set up (and keep that promise), let them help as much as possible, but also let them play and safely explore their new surroundings. 

Parents magazine  to help your preschoolers get comfortable with their new normal.  

School-age kids

From K-12, this is the age span for honest and straightforward talk about the move, put into terms each age group can understand, of course. The theme remains the same of providing affection, reassurance, and help with their transition. 

For teens, make sure they have activities they love to keep them engaged. At this age, friendships are critical, so it’s up to you to facilitate ways that they can keep in touch with those friends they are leaving behind. This can be through email, video chats, meeting up if you haven’t moved too far away and more. 

School will be the hardest adjustment for kids of any age. They’ve most likely left their friends and they’ve definitely left their comfort zone. Work with their new school for ways to help them make friends and get involved in school events. Visit the school together to tour the grounds and meet staff and students, if possible. 

The biggest takeaway a parent of a school-age child can have during all stages of the move is to listen to your child – what they say as much as what they aren’t saying to you. Ask leading questions with examples that require more than a yes or no answer. “Hey, what are you worried about with your school? Friends, clothes, food, the bus ride …?” 

The biggest takeaway a parent of a school-age child can have during all stages of the move is to listen to your child – what they say as much as what they aren’t saying to you. Ask leading questions with examples that require more than a yes or no answer. “Hey, what are you worried about with your school? Friends, clothes, food, the bus ride …?” 

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Involve your child in the move from the beginning

Depending on their age, of course, it’s smart to keep your kids in the loop about your moving plans, so nothing comes as a surprise and they have time to mentally and physically prepare for it. 

“One of the things that troubles kids most during the move is that they don’t have any control over their environment,” says Jacey Eckhart, a military sociologist who is the Director of Spouse and Family Programs at .

Consider taking your child with you when visiting a prospective apartment complex or any new homes you are interested in purchasing or renting. If they can’t join you, take videos or photos and share those with them later, asking their opinions on which place they like better and why. 

Help them feel empowered by asking them their opinion on the place, which room would make a good bedroom for them, if there is enough outdoor space for their favorite sports or hobbies, etc. 

How to help your child during the move

Your kids will typically feel one of two things on Moving Day — either they’ll be excited about being part of the process, or they’ll be sad to see their things removed from their home.

If you’ve prepared them ahead of time, they will hopefully be in the first camp. In this case, giving them special tasks to accomplish, like making sure the movers have water or even putting them in charge of knowing where all the most important things are packed can go a long way to further a child’s sense of control over the situation.

 that you can print and use to get them involved (and out of the way of the movers, at the same time):

Packing tips when moving with kids 

Most kids can and will want to help with the actual process of moving. The boxes and tape will provide endless hours of fun for the smaller set, but your older children can handle the packing of their rooms and special items, with a bit of guidance from you. 

It’s important they feel that they have some form of control over what is happening in their life right then. Give them a list of what to pack together, and help them create a “first-night” box so they can easily get to pajamas, their toothbrush, pillows, blankets, a favorite sleeping buddy, etc. 

For the younger kids, take the time to let them just play – boxes can be fuel for the imagination! Let them build forts or give them blankets, flashlights, and snacks to set up a “clubhouse” where they can retreat if things overstimulate them. 

If you have multiple children, create a color-code system for their boxes and rooms, so there isn’t a lot of fighting over whose box has what inside it. 

Here are a few additional tips to make Moving Day less stressful for everyone, even if you’re worried your kids won’t be excited about the process:

How to help your child feel stable after the move

When things are fresh, new, and unknown, anything you can do to help your kids find stability and familiarity in their new surroundings is key.

Something as simple as getting their room put together right away can go a long way to building a feeling of home and normalcy. Here are a few additional tips that will help you create that sense of stability in an unfamiliar location:

Many teachers say it takes children  six weeks to adjust to their new class at school fully, so it will likely take the same to adjust to your new home as well. But keep in mind that some kids may take longer than others, depending on their personality.

Talk to your kids regularly about how they’re feeling, so you can be on top of any challenges they are facing (this is especially important with teens). Communication is key!

Helping your child cope with change 

Just like adults, children can have pretty diverse reactions to big changes. Moving is an important time for children to be heard. You need to know their  about this move so you can help them through it. Help them gain control over their feelings with some fun exercises from while you move: 

• Have your children draw a picture of their new room and the new house.
• Let your child pack and label a box of their favorite things that they can access quickly at the new place.
• Set up your child’s bedroom first so they will be surrounded by familiar things.
• Give your child a camera and have them document the move. Once you arrive and are settled in, make time together to create a ��ݮ����Ƶapp photo album or scrapbook.
• Read children’s books about moving.
• Read about more  from Bright Horizons.

Moving with children with limitations

With the stress and thousands of details involved with moving, it’s good to stop for a minute and consider your child’s limitations during this life change. 

If they use a wheelchair, keep accessibility in mind when looking at multi-unit dwellings like apartments and condos, as well as a home’s hallway space, stairs vs. elevators, and more. 

If you are moving a long distance, prepare your route ahead of time to give your child adequate breaks from the long haul on the road. This includes staying the night in hotels or pre-arranging a stay with friends or ��ݮ����Ƶapp. You’ll want to make sure you have access to everything your child needs wherever you land for a break.

Moving with children with  can bring another level of challenge to the transition. Moving itself is messy and your carefully planned schedules and structures will be going away until you get settled in your new place, so expect hitches like meltdowns from your kids. You can prepare for those by having easy access to things that comfort them and are familiar. Make sure to keep a “safe” place available – a quiet room or space they can decompress in.

What to do if you’re moving out of state with kids

Moving out of state creates an entirely new set of challenges if you have kids. There’s often a long drive or flight to your new home, and it’s very difficult (or unrealistic) to visit ahead of time to show your kids their new surroundings.

However, technology offers a solution. You can use Google Maps and Streetview to show your kids where they’ll be living. This will help them visualize their new home, relieving some of the stress that comes with the “unknown.”

Additionally, if you’ll be driving, you can also turn the road trip into an exciting adventure. Prepare road trip games ahead of time and tell your kids about all the cool things they’re going to get to see along the way.

More resources to make moving with kids easier

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It’s here! The time of year that we look forward to the most! Well, sort of…It’s spring cleaning time! 

The time has come to throw out the old and bring in the new, and this doesn’t just mean that dress you still haven’t worn. This time of year can often be stressful for you and it may seem even more overwhelming with your little one(s) running around. We’re here to share with you that it doesn’t have to be! 

Here are 5 tips to help make your Spring cleaning easy, fun and an overall great learning experience for your littles!

1. Make it fun!  

Let’s face it. Hardly anyone likes to clean, especially our little ones! It’s important to make this time both educational & productive and to ensure that there is a positive connection to such tasks. Examples to get your littles in the groove may be to play their favorite music or show them that you are enjoying it as well— make a dance party out of it! Doing this can help associating a fun feeling towards the task, and who knows, they may even look forward to it in the future!

    2.  Reward them after! 

This is so important when involving them in what can at first be seen as a not so fun activity. Let them know that with hard work comes reward, even if it’s just putting away their favorite toy. Rewarding them is a great way for them to take pride in their work- to learn how important it is to follow through – and to build their confidence simultaneously. You can offer them a sticker, favorite TV show or snack … be creative! 

3. Lead by example. 

We get it. With how much you already do it can seem impossible to see cleaning as anything but a “good time.”  But attitude is everything –  by showing them that you’re excited about cleaning and that you enjoy it, odds are they will too. Little ones are notorious for mimicking those around them and respond well to positive reactions from you. Express your excitement towards it and you’ll have your cleaning buddy in no time!

4. Encourage them. 

A little frustration is inevitable from your littles during cleanup time. If you find that they are upset, angry or start to lose control of their emotions, encourage them to work through those feelings and let them know that you both are a team! Encouraging them to keep going through positive reinforcement, through words “Wow, you’re so good at sorting & matching your socks!” and or offering extra hugs or high-fives, will allow them to see that they are not alone. Allow them to feel angry, then show them that by  pushing through those feelings is worth it in the end. Look at what they were able to accomplish! 

5. Give each other a high five!

You did it! You were productive and made cleaning a great learning and teachable moment. This is something that you both can feel great about and is a huge accomplishment!  

By the end of the day you should feel accomplished and good about including them into your Spring Cleaning schedule. Although it may not be easy to include the kiddos all the time, these tips can surely help you to feel positive and good about what used to be daunting tasks. Teaching and showing them the list above, is a great way to help them develop a great understanding of what cleaning may be and why it’s important. Even more so, teaching them to work through those tough feelings they may feel during the process, can ease them in knowing that with participation comes reward and or positive outcomes! Not only does this allow them to feel good about themselves but it also teaches them to follow instructions. We know nannies, these things can be hard at first. We get it! That’s why we’re here to encourage you to put your best self forward and give you some great tips that will give them the best cleaning time they ever did have. 

Happy spring cleaning, nannies!